Last night's selection was Undercover Christmas. It was very sappy, predictable, and cheap. It did have one great moment. Tyne Daly trying to repair the relationship between her FBI agent son and her judge and judgmental husband says something to the effect of "Forgiveness is not earned, it is given." There was more to the line than that but I can't remember beyond what I wrote above. Today I did a Google search in hopes of finding the quote. I didn't find the quote from the movie. I did find a number of quotes, one of which is the exact opposite:
“Forgiveness is not given; it is earned. And once earned, it cannot be withheld."
All the quotes that I looked at portrayed forgiveness in a number of different lights.
Forgive but don't forget.
You can't forgive if you don't forget.
Men never forgive but will forget...women will forgive but never forget. . . .
On and on it went with many contradictions.
So I ask two things of my faithful readers...both of you.
1) If you know the quote I am looking for please put it in a comment.
2) Tell me your thoughts on forgiveness. Is forgiveness earned or is it given?
EDIT 12-22-10 The movie was on again last night, so I watched it again with note book in hand. Good thing I like sappy Christmas movies. Here is a closer rendition to what was actually said:
“I don’t think that forgiveness is earned. It is given. The only way this will ever end is when one of you decides to forgive the other out of generosity. When you want that more than to be right.”